I began to suspect that no women actually used the site. The stereotype is that women are interested in relationships, and that only men would be interested in totally casual sex, right? We know that's not true, though. In fact, I was inspired to write this article when a friend told me many of her female friends had owned up to using it.
Over the next couple of days, I actually received a lot of posts from women. Or at least, they said they were women. To be honest, I doubted the veracity of the claims. It didn't take long to realize that almost all the replies I received were scams. The situation is so severe on Craigslist Casual Encounters that posts by real women who are actually seeking hook-ups are often flagged for removal at the slightest cause for suspicion. The most common scams are "safe dating" websites.
An alleged woman will write a man saying she's interested, but that because of the Craigslist-based serial killers and rapists in the news, she needs some extra assurance that it's safe. If you follow the link she provides, the website asks you for your credit card number — y'know, so it can do a background check to make sure you're not a criminal. One individual tried to get me to buy him or her virtual currency in online games like MapleStory before agreeing to hand over contact information.
Yeah, right — moving on! What little luck I'd had so far. The week was half over and I hadn't had a single bite. I decided I would have to take the initiative, so in addition to posting my own ads, I started responding to every ad from any woman who seemed at all interesting. I cast a wide net in my searches, looking up posts by straight or bisexual women between the ages of 18 and 35 who lived anywhere in Chicagoland — a large metropolitan area that's home to close to five million females.
Most of the women wanted something very specific they couldn't find in their normal lives: Someone to help play out a particular fantasy, someone vastly older than them or someone of another race.
Very few of the women who were advertising seemed to be looking for anything I would consider a "normal encounter. I typically wrote two or three paragraph replies and matched the tone of their own messages, then attached a couple of tasteful photos of myself.
I didn't get a single reply from an actual prospect this way. It turned out that most of the ads were fakes from scammers, and quite a few fell into another category all together. Prostitution is what made Craigslist controversial. There's technically another section for that — "Adult Services," formerly "Erotic Services" — but that's not the only place you'll find practitioners of the world's oldest profession. The prostitutes of Craigslist speak in code, but it's not a difficult one to learn.
They advertise "French lessons" — an odd thing to advertise under "Casual Encounters," don't you think? Well, it's obviously a euphemism for something else. Many of the ads that weren't from scammers were from prostitutes. The ads are so obvious that it's surprising the euphemisms are effective in fending off law enforcement. Then again, maybe they are law enforcement. Amidst all those failures, I had one near-success.
A woman wrote in response to my sweet "cuddling first" ad saying she was in town for only a couple of months, and that she was frustrated she couldn't find a relationship. When she sent her pictures, she looked plain but attractive. We exchanged a couple of e-mails over the course of two hours, tossing back and forth lists of interests and the like. She made it clear that she wanted to meet up, and while she talked about starting slow, it was clear that it would indeed be a casual encounter.
But when I suggested a time to meet — the last message from me before I would reveal myself and back out — there was no reply.
At least, not yet. The next day, she e-mailed me saying she was deeply apologetic and that she'd fallen asleep. She said she'd like to meet up sometime. So yes, there are women on Craigslist. Well, at least one! You've probably guessed by now that the experiences for heterosexual men and women on Craigslist's casual encounters are quite different. I observed that for every ad a woman posts, there are at least 20 from men.
If nothing else, that imbalance ought to alter the experience. To get the female perspective, I did two things: I posted a fake ad as a woman to see what kinds of responses I would get, and I interviewed two women who have had success hooking up on casual encounters in the past. As for potential suitors, I asked only that they supply a photo and "be attractive and not creepy.
There was a five minute delay before my ad appeared, then I started receiving about one response per minute. Most of them were careful to say "I don't do this often. Some sent pictures of themselves naked along with the word "Hi. There were a lot of expressions of sympathy over my fake breakup. I was hearing from men of all types, and it seemed I had my pick of the litter. After about thirty minutes, though, my post was flagged for removal.
I thought I'd made it look legit, but as we learned earlier, folks have good reason to be hawkish about scammers. After the end of my test run with Craigslist casual encounters, I decided to get more insight into the female experience with the site by interviewing two women who said they had successes meeting up with men on Casual Encounters. Kill curiosity in a safe way, and all of a sudden it has less hold over you.
By holding websites liable they at least, for the time being, hinder that flow of activity. Plenty of experts and social scientists spoke out against the shut down precisely because it makes it more difficult to catch these criminals by driving them under ground or onto websites outside the US. It basically sounds like the consensus among sex trafficking experts is that this will exacerbate the problem, not help it.
Here to save the day! Welcome Firechat and Mastodon. The community just needs to start using these plataforms by announcement in places like here.
Let me explain how to use these things. Firechat is a communicator that is totally descentralized. It can communicate phone to phone using regular networking like wifi or your data plan. But also you can turn that stuff off and just talk to the locals using Bluetooth.
I know, it's crazy! Like if you go to a club, you can just post, I'm here and talk to those users who are close by. There is a local channel just for that purpose.
It's not a clone. It basically works by having a login to an instance. There are videos, links images and sounds. It's federalized, but it can also be localized.
Like there can be one or fifty for San Diego, another 20 for Los Angeles. Or to you could like get together with a mini group and just toot to them all day. No one else in the middle do long as you can have one of your friends leave his computer turned on all day for this Anyway, there go Google these two things and see if you can use them.
It is a bummer to loose CL, had a lot of good times through it. I am in MI, my best alternative so far has been local classifieds like classopia. We are currently working on pvssy. Everything had to be pre selected questions and answers to comply with the new laws in the US. Anyway the website is still under construction but we are making progress daily. If you like it please post and spread the word.
Less than a minute. The funny part is Facebook and Twitter are both in violation of sesta. There are literally ten of thousands of escort ads all over both websites.
The moral of my story is be careful with a molestation victim who engages in incest with her 3 brothers. Maybe the bipolar and skitzo was caused by that.
Now please tell me your opinion! Fetlife is more like Facebook of sex, not really a POF for sex. Fetlife is really confusing, poorly designed, and they do a horrendous job at a personals section. Not really about hooking up with people. And there's a much wider acceptance of various non-monogamous configurations and understandings.
Not that I approve, but it sure as hell is popular! All of that makes it a great place to find sex partners. If you are willing to meet up with someone in a semi-public place and get to know them in person. Very very poor substitute, but it covers many of the same areas of interest potentially. Definitely more social network than it is dating network and it's set up that way. It's only the US where the personals are gone.
Pick a city and just start posting, others will follow along. Canada's personal section is now gone as well. Craigslist deleted the personals sections for all countries now. Side effect of their servers being in California I imagine. Personal ads are gone worldwide on CL. Their lawyers are probably telling them that ads in Asia or Africa open them to prosecution because the US law is written so broadly.
We could, but then it would infringe on Canadians looking for a good time. And good luck letting everyone in California know to look in the same section. Give it time to fix issues and for others to migrate over.
Unfortunately, backpage is also closed. I think the best option could be Casualx: I hope Craigslist can be back soon. Might as well just use Tinder or POF.
At least you can do more than flip through pictures and profiles for free with those. I tried many posts on doublelist as alternative of craigslist, they never approved my ads.
Maybe they are approving their personal post ads only. I got the same bullshit. Takes like to review then it says it was removed for violating guidelines. I see folks straught up nudes and talk about drug use in slang terms but my simple text based ads get removed.
I dont get ir either. Moreover the ads are moderated someone checks that users and ads are not fake so the most of the ads are real. I call 'BS' on your 'not fake' statement. I just looked at their Casual Encounters area, W4M, and nearly all of the 'women' there are 'bots or pros. Those that I looked up all had area codes that didn't match the STATE that the purported post was from, so they're 'bots or pros that are out of town on 'the circuit'. After the CL personals section is closed, I tried to find some other sites to replace it.
I found out that the CasualX app and the doublelist. You may try it. And the another craiglist site backpage. Be always careful when using such free ad post sites. It all about the content. Hopefully well see something with an active user base fill the hole soon. Like CL this one is free to post and read - not a scam site like most the others. Just looks like it needs more people to start using it. For past few months, since I am using few of those sites I can see rapid growing of posted ads in personal sections: That means that people slowly "switching" from CL to other sites It's new so doesn't have ads in most areas, but if you want to see it become what cl used to be, go post an ad to get it started!
That's gonna be one socially exhausted poster! This closing of Craigslist personals is a victory to all the good people that got backstabbed by their significant other with their help. Guess you should have treated her better, or let her explore her deviant side. Now the rest of us deviants in happy, successful relationships get to suffer.
You just keep telling yourself that. One day karma will pay you a visit. By sounds of it you clearly cheat. Open mind seams to mean open legs to a lot of people now a days.
I hope she got what she needed since you apparently make it all about you. Maybe your next lover can teach you how to please them and be less selfish? I don't think that's fair to him.
While I don't agree with his original post since cl is just a tool to meet people and there are MANY others that accomplish the same goal. If she wanted to cheat, she would have cheated whether Craigslist was there or not.
But to say that it is all his fault essentially and completely ignoring the fact that he PROBABLY didn't know that is wife was messing around behind his back is disingenuous.
Imagine if a girl was cheated on and some dude said "oh you should have treated your man better and been better at pleasing him. Lol she was gonna cheat no matter what.
They cheat because they are unhappy in their marriage. Not cuz horny dudes are easy to find online. Yeah and me and my wife use it to have fun. We've met other married couples that want the same thing we do and we have a lot of fun on the site. So no, it's not all cheaters and you have zero grounds for a lawsuit. If you want a site that you can just hookup with girls or guys on, then try intimatepersonals. Doublelist is useless it's just a straight copy of craigslist, while intimatepersonals.
It's beginning to look a lot like CL. There are many best alternatives to Craigslist available. Some of the best ones are Oodle, Trovit, Hoobly, etc. You can find some best alternatives here: Of the 3 you listed, only Oodle has 'personals', and your weblink for more information is similarly devoid of any useful info; it's all "sell my stuff" sites.
I guess you didn't understand the title of this thread. Perusing the ads, MegaFriends appears to have real women, the other 2 sites are all 'bots or sex workers. Women looking for guys 25 to 75 years old is a sure sign of a Pro. Phone numbers on pix needs no further investigation. Your ugly and need prostitution. The fact of the matter is there all molestation victims and your all pretty sorry with no game.